Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.
A sociopath, when entering a new environ, will take over quickly, make contacts, form connections with people, and begin to suck everything dry. Normally, the sociopath is careful enough to keep resources flowing, not hoard anything, and make sure that everything (s)he does looks generous and giving, while still gaining from it. If this fails, and the people around the sociopath begin to notice, the sociopath will leave, normally without a trace. They'll start anew and begin drawing off of a new community, trying once again to appear generous and giving, while still gaining from their actions.
Feb 23, 2011
Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.
This one is different for every sociopath. For some, it's about lording it over a younger mate. For others, it's about being in control of someone older. But for all, it's about the power. It's always about being the one holding the remote and pushing the buttons. Some sociopaths find fun in being bound, and seeming out of control, but the moment the sexual activity starts, the sociopath is back on top. The promiscuity comes from the inability to truly care about another human, and therefore not caring about the implications of cheating. For a sociopath, the only worry is being caught, and how it may negatively impact the image (s)he puts out. Child abuse is generally about taking advantage of the status of age and the ignorance of the child to prove mastery to the one being abused, and gender often has no affect on that. Rape (in the case of sociopaths) is normally done by men to teenage girls in an effort to stoke the rage against some high-school flirt who spurned them at some point, else, it's just a seduction from either gender to either gender to prove a point or to take a 'trophy.'
In some cases, however, sociopaths will find less joy in the ability to just seduce, and as time moves on and the seduction becomes easier, a sociopath will begin stalking targets in order to gain a challenge and force sex on a victim. This is always more about the challenge and the chase than it is the actual rape. There's little sexuality in this, other than the depravity of the mind giving the sociopath a deranged sense of orgasmic fury in the pain of the victim.
This one is different for every sociopath. For some, it's about lording it over a younger mate. For others, it's about being in control of someone older. But for all, it's about the power. It's always about being the one holding the remote and pushing the buttons. Some sociopaths find fun in being bound, and seeming out of control, but the moment the sexual activity starts, the sociopath is back on top. The promiscuity comes from the inability to truly care about another human, and therefore not caring about the implications of cheating. For a sociopath, the only worry is being caught, and how it may negatively impact the image (s)he puts out. Child abuse is generally about taking advantage of the status of age and the ignorance of the child to prove mastery to the one being abused, and gender often has no affect on that. Rape (in the case of sociopaths) is normally done by men to teenage girls in an effort to stoke the rage against some high-school flirt who spurned them at some point, else, it's just a seduction from either gender to either gender to prove a point or to take a 'trophy.'
In some cases, however, sociopaths will find less joy in the ability to just seduce, and as time moves on and the seduction becomes easier, a sociopath will begin stalking targets in order to gain a challenge and force sex on a victim. This is always more about the challenge and the chase than it is the actual rape. There's little sexuality in this, other than the depravity of the mind giving the sociopath a deranged sense of orgasmic fury in the pain of the victim.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
A sociopath, while well defined as a person on the outside, has a definitive 'edge' on the inside. There's a cold, hard surface surrounding the inner rage that drives them. We don't intentionally cause devastation, for the most part, nor do we worry when we do. What's done is done. Again, I see that this was written by someone not of sociopathic origin, because we generally own what we do. When portraying our faults to others, we make everything appear to have external causes, laying the blame at another's feet, but we never fail to know what we did. It's never someone else's fault on the inside, but again, it's what people see that matters.
A sociopath, while well defined as a person on the outside, has a definitive 'edge' on the inside. There's a cold, hard surface surrounding the inner rage that drives them. We don't intentionally cause devastation, for the most part, nor do we worry when we do. What's done is done. Again, I see that this was written by someone not of sociopathic origin, because we generally own what we do. When portraying our faults to others, we make everything appear to have external causes, laying the blame at another's feet, but we never fail to know what we did. It's never someone else's fault on the inside, but again, it's what people see that matters.
Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
Sociopaths hate rules. We hate limits, and we generally hate authority. As a child, it's hard to understand, so most sociopaths end up getting caught often. The odd thing is, though, is even as a child, a sociopath will be able to justify the action; i.e. only stealing candy that wasn't being eaten by someone else, hurting a dog because it wasn't listening, breaking a toy only when it's already broken. A sociopath doesn't take candy from a baby, a sociopath takes candy from a doctors office, getting four or five suckers out of the basket that says "Take One Please." A sociopath doesn't hurt an animal out of frustration, a sociopath hurts an animal to teach it. Most of the sociopath's behavioral problems are shown in adolescence, however. Where many teens 'rebel' out of anger, frustration, loneliness, peer pressure, or other emotional reasons, sociopaths 'rebel' solely for the purpose of rebellion. Every sociopath will test the limits, see what can be gotten away with, and more often than not, push it too far. Keeping items that are questionable, if not outright contraband on their person at school, threatening peers to see if they'll retaliate, intentionally being the 'queer kid' to cause a stir, breaking minor rules like dress code or attendance policies in order to irritate authority, limitless possibilities to the ways the rules can be broken. A sociopath will generally know exactly the punishment for breaking the rules as well, and when questioned, will normally own the crime. No denial, no trying to squirm around the rules. Just a solid stance of "I broke the rules. Punish me." It often forces disciplinary action to become awkward, when a student walks into the principal's office, knowing the punishment better than the principal does.
Another type of delinquency is when the young sociopath dislikes a rule, and so questions it by performing an act which does not directly break the rule, but calls into question the validity of the rule. This is actually a lawyer's method for changing the law. The lawyer, however, waits for someone to break the law he doesn't like, then goes to prove that the law somehow infringes the rights of the person who broke it, and that the only reason the person broke that specific law was to exercise their rights. A sociopath would simply break the law because they didn't like it, then when court came around, explain to the judge and jury why (s)he broke the law. Getting a sentence wouldn't bother the sociopath, however, as they'd easily convince everyone around them, parents, friends, teachers, that the sentence was ridiculous and the law was idiotic. Doing so makes the sociopath a martyr, while getting off the hook makes the sociopath a hero. Either way, the broken rule gives the sociopath a positive outcome.
Throughout younger ages, friends will be hard to come by, as most sociopaths have difficulty communicating with people before they develop. A sociopath's mind functions on a different level, using different logic and reasoning than the people around him/her. A young, undeveloped sociopath may often begin to believe that they are smarter than their peers, or otherwise better, and will be seen as cocky, else the undeveloped sociopath may begin to view his/herself as weird, a misfit, and will be labeled and judged as such. As the sociopath reaches teen years, however, (s)he begins to be able to fake normality, and grow into a small group of friends. As the sociopath becomes more comfortable, (s)he begins to expand, adding more groups of people to their repertoire, learning more about different cliques in their school, and fitting in more and more. Old prejudices may remain, however, as many teens may remember the sociopath as the 'weird kid' from middle or elementary school.
Sociopaths hate rules. We hate limits, and we generally hate authority. As a child, it's hard to understand, so most sociopaths end up getting caught often. The odd thing is, though, is even as a child, a sociopath will be able to justify the action; i.e. only stealing candy that wasn't being eaten by someone else, hurting a dog because it wasn't listening, breaking a toy only when it's already broken. A sociopath doesn't take candy from a baby, a sociopath takes candy from a doctors office, getting four or five suckers out of the basket that says "Take One Please." A sociopath doesn't hurt an animal out of frustration, a sociopath hurts an animal to teach it. Most of the sociopath's behavioral problems are shown in adolescence, however. Where many teens 'rebel' out of anger, frustration, loneliness, peer pressure, or other emotional reasons, sociopaths 'rebel' solely for the purpose of rebellion. Every sociopath will test the limits, see what can be gotten away with, and more often than not, push it too far. Keeping items that are questionable, if not outright contraband on their person at school, threatening peers to see if they'll retaliate, intentionally being the 'queer kid' to cause a stir, breaking minor rules like dress code or attendance policies in order to irritate authority, limitless possibilities to the ways the rules can be broken. A sociopath will generally know exactly the punishment for breaking the rules as well, and when questioned, will normally own the crime. No denial, no trying to squirm around the rules. Just a solid stance of "I broke the rules. Punish me." It often forces disciplinary action to become awkward, when a student walks into the principal's office, knowing the punishment better than the principal does.
Another type of delinquency is when the young sociopath dislikes a rule, and so questions it by performing an act which does not directly break the rule, but calls into question the validity of the rule. This is actually a lawyer's method for changing the law. The lawyer, however, waits for someone to break the law he doesn't like, then goes to prove that the law somehow infringes the rights of the person who broke it, and that the only reason the person broke that specific law was to exercise their rights. A sociopath would simply break the law because they didn't like it, then when court came around, explain to the judge and jury why (s)he broke the law. Getting a sentence wouldn't bother the sociopath, however, as they'd easily convince everyone around them, parents, friends, teachers, that the sentence was ridiculous and the law was idiotic. Doing so makes the sociopath a martyr, while getting off the hook makes the sociopath a hero. Either way, the broken rule gives the sociopath a positive outcome.
Throughout younger ages, friends will be hard to come by, as most sociopaths have difficulty communicating with people before they develop. A sociopath's mind functions on a different level, using different logic and reasoning than the people around him/her. A young, undeveloped sociopath may often begin to believe that they are smarter than their peers, or otherwise better, and will be seen as cocky, else the undeveloped sociopath may begin to view his/herself as weird, a misfit, and will be labeled and judged as such. As the sociopath reaches teen years, however, (s)he begins to be able to fake normality, and grow into a small group of friends. As the sociopath becomes more comfortable, (s)he begins to expand, adding more groups of people to their repertoire, learning more about different cliques in their school, and fitting in more and more. Old prejudices may remain, however, as many teens may remember the sociopath as the 'weird kid' from middle or elementary school.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.
This description is very accurate, if a little extravagant. The "rage and abuse" are normally no more than an appearance of constant disappointment in the 'victim,' acting as though nothing they do is right, and often feigning frustration with their incompetence. All of this is nothing more than show, but the strength and conviction with which a sociopath pulls off the act creates a sort of dramatic gravity for the 'victim,' so that even as we destroy the 'victim' from the inside out, we rebuild them with uncommon praise and make them feel that all they can do is keep trying to measure up. Our social graces and faux emotional depth make the abused feel that we're worth the pain, that they can change the sociopath.
A sociopath actually will rarely believe that they are all-powerful. In fact, we're normally very real with ourselves, beyond the whole Mind over Matter concept. On the surface, we act like we're all powerful, always in control, indestructible, unstoppable, and with no sense of boundary or concern. On the surface, we may even force ourselves to truly believe that we're the bomb-diggity, the shiz-niz. But underneath, we know our boundaries, we know where to stop. We'll always push those limits, though, to make everyone around us believe our surface attributes. If you go farther than everyone else, then you've proven to them that their limits don't apply to you. Inside, though, you weren't sure if you could go beyond those limits.
This description is very accurate, if a little extravagant. The "rage and abuse" are normally no more than an appearance of constant disappointment in the 'victim,' acting as though nothing they do is right, and often feigning frustration with their incompetence. All of this is nothing more than show, but the strength and conviction with which a sociopath pulls off the act creates a sort of dramatic gravity for the 'victim,' so that even as we destroy the 'victim' from the inside out, we rebuild them with uncommon praise and make them feel that all they can do is keep trying to measure up. Our social graces and faux emotional depth make the abused feel that we're worth the pain, that they can change the sociopath.
A sociopath actually will rarely believe that they are all-powerful. In fact, we're normally very real with ourselves, beyond the whole Mind over Matter concept. On the surface, we act like we're all powerful, always in control, indestructible, unstoppable, and with no sense of boundary or concern. On the surface, we may even force ourselves to truly believe that we're the bomb-diggity, the shiz-niz. But underneath, we know our boundaries, we know where to stop. We'll always push those limits, though, to make everyone around us believe our surface attributes. If you go farther than everyone else, then you've proven to them that their limits don't apply to you. Inside, though, you weren't sure if you could go beyond those limits.
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